Long Distance Relationship
(taken from http://www.dearcupid.org/)
There are so many views on them. Some people think they can’t work, that the relationships aren’t “real” because you don’t see your boyfriend or girlfriend everyday, but that’s their opinion. They haven’t been in one most likely, so who’s really to judge? People that have been in them. And I know they’ll say they’re successful. There are people with internet love success stories all over the place thanks to the websites. Communication is making everything more easy for people in long distance relationships. There’s IM, email, online games, phones, texting, you name it. Without those the relationship wouldn’t be able to keep up.
I know they work because I’m in a long distance relationship currently. I didn’t meet my boyfriend on the internet or an online game of any sort. I met him in real life. He’s the most wonderful boy I have ever met. He’s two years older than me and lives on the opposite side of the country. I couldn’t be more in love with him. He listens to what I say, is there for me when I need someone, and has never been mean to me. It sounds like such a perfect little relationship doesn’t it?
It wasn’t at first. I can’t tell you how many times I thought about calling quits. I couldn’t take it. Why? He was keeping secrets.Secrets are probably the biggest problem in a long distance relationship, and if your partner doesn’t always tell you the truth then stop wasting your time. I’m not saying if he lies 3 times about little things, I mean about big things. Now, I give you that advice, but I’m going to tell you that I didn’t listen. When me and my boyfriend were in the early stages there was a major secret I didn’t know. He had a girlfriend. That text message almost killed me. My heart stopped. He had been flirting with me, wanting to be in a relationship, and he had a girlfriend. He was seeing her and she didn’t know I existed. I was there the whole summer and she had no idea that I even existed. I didn’t feel bad for what I had done as awful as it sounds, but I felt bad for doing it and not knowing.
I stopped talking to him. I let him know that if he wanted me over her then he needed to decide.He chose me. Since the day he told me he had dumped her he swore to never lie to me again. He hasn’t. He has been true to me through the whole relationship. He never hides anything and we tell each other everything.
Letting your long distance partner into your life and telling them everything is really important. You need to say what you’re thinking. It’s important to let them know how you feel about something. If you don’t, then I personally don’t feel its a relationship. If you love someone you should tell them everything. I don’t mean every little bitty dark secret you have, but your opinion on things. Being in a long distance relationship.
It works if you put your heart into it and your partner does too. If you don’t, you’re wasting your time and your cell phone minutes.
October 20, 2007